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Ariel Moy
Oct 23, 20238 min read
The relationship in the room: Sensing and seeing a mother/child 'us'
Recently I had the privilege of watching a series of videos showing encounters between primary caregivers and their children (aged 0-5...
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Ariel Moy
Sep 5, 20226 min read
The Adolescent ‘Us’: Creating Spaciousness in the Mother/Child Relationship
Conveying a practical sense of the mother/child ‘us’ - the relationship that holds mother and child together - is often most easily...
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Ariel Moy
Jul 22, 20215 min read
Layers – Musings on Motherhood, the Pandemic and the Earth’s Anatomy
As I sit here attempting to give form to my musings and questions around mothering, I compete for warmth with my son who, yet again, is...
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Ariel Moy
May 8, 20217 min read
Busyness and Invisible Holding
Our TV has a screen saver that rotates a collection of family photos. I often see an image come up of my son in my partner’s arms the day...
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Ariel Moy
Mar 31, 20216 min read
The 'Good Enough' Mother and Holding
No one can quite define what a perfect mother would look like and yet we’re haunted daily by the feeling that whatever that perfection is, w
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Anonymous Contributor
Feb 26, 20213 min read
Your Stories: Mum, I Don't Feel Okay
It is recommended you soothe a sick baby by holding them and giving them lots of love and attention. Nothing provides comfort in the time...
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Ariel Moy
Feb 3, 20215 min read
The Shock of the New Mother/Child Us
Nothing can prepare you for the first time you hold your child in your arms. Even if you’ve had three children before you can’t prepare...
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Anonymous Contributor
Jan 28, 20212 min read
Your Stories: As He Places His Little Hand into Mine
As he places his little hand into mine, I think to myself … one day, his skin won’t feel as soft and smooth. one day, his hand will be...
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Anonymous Contributor
Jan 28, 20213 min read
Your Stories: Dear 2020 Baby...
Dear 2020 Baby, You have been born during a global pandemic. Something we did not even know was going to happen when we first found out...
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Ariel Moy
Dec 19, 20206 min read
Virtual Holding: Technology and Care
2020 has been a year of separations. Many of us have had extended periods of physical distancing and when we do meet others, our faces...
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Ariel Moy
Dec 2, 20207 min read
Holding Our Children, Holding Ourselves
As mothers we watch our children grow and we know that both intentionally and inadvertently we contribute to the ways in which they...
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Ariel Moy
Oct 20, 20205 min read
Could Holding be a Circuit Breaker?
The quote above is from a mother called Kitty who didn’t shy away from talking about the moments when the last thing she wanted to do was ho
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Anonymous Contributor
Aug 15, 20201 min read
Your Stories: Blessed Beyond Imagination
At this present time I do not have kids of my own, however, I am blessed beyond imagination to have a beautiful 11 months old nephew named I
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Ariel Moy
Aug 14, 20204 min read
George Floyd Asked for His Mother Nine Times Before He Died
“Momma, I love you. I can’t do nothing”
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Ariel Moy
Jul 10, 20206 min read
Why I Love the Phrase: 'Calm the Farm'
You might wonder why I’d write about a phrase that on the surface appears to tell people to ‘just chill out’.
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Anonymous Contributor
Jun 9, 20202 min read
Your Stories: Jenni Harris - A Grandmother Reflects...
a mother holds her children
in ways that are deeply felt, remembered and known
as previous generations held, safeguarded and nurtured
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Anonymous Contributor
Jun 6, 20202 min read
Your Stories: When they don’t fit under our chins anymore...
When I first heard about Ari’s Holding Matters website we were just about to go into lockdown for the COVID pandemic. It was only then I sta
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Ariel Moy
May 29, 20205 min read
Holding Your Teenager
Holding your teenager in different ways. Keeping the offer for affection open.
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Anonymous Contributor
May 28, 20201 min read
Your Stories: Miracle
Blessed. From the very first moment I held my beautiful little angel, I felt the most amazing form of love envelope my whole being.
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Anonymous Contributor
May 25, 20202 min read
Your Stories: Pamalar
I have 3 children all evenly spaced out and all extremely unique. So each experience as they have grown has changed and will continue to...
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